Just like others in authority, parents too are weary of their children going out of track. That is the reason they try to exert their control. Their views about the company their wards keep and the activities they indulge may appear unwelcome. However, though it is natural to feel that way, it is important to look beyond petty issues and open all channels of communication with them. Spare a thought for the numerous roles parents don. They are worried about shelter, food, clothing and the education of their children. Also what the future portends and often forget their personal lives and needs. All that they crave is their children to be responsible. Is that too much to ask for? That is the reason their actions, no matter how unpalatable is hinged on their love and attachment towards you. But youngsters rarely see anything beyond themselves or their friends. Take time to ponder. Are friends worth the love your parents have always bestowed on you? Granted, young people would like to be with their own kind, enjoy their freedom, go out with friends, watch movies, eat and gossip. However, it is surprising some of them feel embarrassed or find it an infringement when their parents or guardians make enquiries about their friends or acquaintances. Youngster could lessen the conflicts if they approach issues with an open mind. It is also important to know the kind of environment you have grown up in. This is made up of parents, siblings as well as the neighborhood. It is also the place you certainly hope to spend more time. The less time you spend looking at faults, the more you stand to gain from relationships. There are things that our parents expect and you better try to realize them.
Where do you stand?
Parents find it convenient to enquire about your friends just to be sure that you are keeping the right company. When you have established a good relationship, with them, there are chances that you could also keep them involved in all that you do. Discuss your future plans and articulate your views with them. This will pave the ground for you to understand their viewpoints and counter their objections. Your friends also stand to benefit from talks with your parents. It is important that you get involved in meaningful activities even if you are taking a break so that your parents don't have the feeling you are idling about with not much to do. Sooner or later, you will come to the realization that there is no one like your close and dear ones. So don't wait because it may be too late to offer an apology or too painful to repair a broken trust.
Happy vacations!
Lecturer, Dept. of Journalism
and Mass Communications
